I'll listen properly first
No solutions in the first ten minutes. You'll get the whole thing out before anyone starts fixing anything.
My Experience
You should know who
you're talking to.
Before you tell a stranger anything, it's fair to know a bit about them. So here's the background, the training, and how I actually work.
Hello
I'm Rishi Bhaskara, and I do one thing.
I sit with men while they work out what's actually going on — and then I help them do something about it.
I'm not a therapist and I've never pretended to be one. What I offer is an hour of proper attention, a few good questions, and somewhere to put down the things that are hard to say out loud — redundancy, divorce, drink, grief, rage, debt, and the particular kind of numbness that arrives when everything on paper is fine.
Most of the men I work with have never spoken to anyone about any of it. Quite a few book a call and then cancel it. If that's you, that's alright too — the offer doesn't expire.
Why this work
Because the conversation
usually comes too late.
Most men can point to the moment things started to slip, and almost none of them told anybody at the time. They carried on, got through it, and quietly assumed that was simply what being a bloke felt like.
Hido Coach exists to make that conversation easier to start — early, before it becomes the sort you have far too late.
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Ask me about my qualifications.
Genuinely — ask. Coaching is an unregulated industry in the UK, which means anyone can call themselves a coach, and the burden of proof sits squarely with the person taking your money.
What you're entitled to ask any coach
- What they trained in, with whom, and to what level
- Whether they carry professional indemnity and public liability insurance
- Whether they have regular external supervision
- What happens to what you tell them, and who else could ever see it
- When they would refer you on, and to whom
You'll get straight answers to all five on the free intro call, and you're welcome to ask for them in writing.
How I work
Five things you can expect from me.
Every session is different, because every man is. But the way I hold them doesn't change.
I'll ask better questions
Coaching is mostly good questions. Some of them will be uncomfortable. None of them are traps.
I won't tell you what to do
Advice from strangers rarely sticks. Decisions you reach yourself almost always do.
I'll hold you to it — kindly
If you said you'd do something, I'll ask about it. Not to catch you out; because that's what makes it real.
I'll say when I'm not the answer
Referral isn't failure. Getting you to the right kind of help quickly is part of doing this job well.
I'll keep it human
You can swear, go quiet, change your mind or laugh at something serious. All of it is allowed.
Being straight with you
What coaching is — and what it isn't.
This matters enough to spell out. Coaching and therapy are different jobs, done by different people, for different reasons. Plenty of men have both at once, and they work well together.
Coaching is
- Forward-looking and practical
- Structured around goals you set
- Confidential and non-clinical
- Something you can stop at any time
Coaching isn't
- Therapy, counselling or psychiatry
- A diagnosis or a treatment plan
- A crisis or out-of-hours service
- A substitute for medical advice
Before you ask
The questions men actually ask.
Then we start there. "I don't know" is a genuinely useful answer, and it's usually the beginning of a much better one. Nobody is expected to arrive articulate.
No. Coaching works with where you are and where you're headed. If something from the past is clearly in the way, we'll acknowledge it — but we won't excavate it. That's therapy's job.
No. Sessions are confidential. The only exception is a serious risk to your life or someone else's, and I'd talk to you about it before doing anything. Nothing is shared with employers, partners or family.
Whichever suits. In person around Hull and East Yorkshire, or online by video or phone. Plenty of men find the first one easier by phone, in the car, with nobody watching their face.
Most men notice something shifting within three or four sessions. Meaningful change usually takes a few months. There's no minimum term and no notice period — you stop when you're ready.
Then you cry. It happens often, it's completely unremarkable in here, and there's a box of tissues that nobody comments on.
Twenty minutes. No cost, no commitment.
Ask me anything you like on that call, including whether I think I'm the right person for what you're carrying.